The fact is, it need only matter to them if their clothes don't fit right or their hair isn't brushed. For nonconformity outside the realm of health and personal safety, what can really go wrong? Discovering their own likes and style should come from them, not from annoying reminders from me. Years ago, I was appalled by parents who were hopeful that their children would be teased for sucking their thumb or acting foolishly with hopes it would curb the behavior. I was the parent who fought to ward off all that harmful harassment with too much information that my kids could not, and would not, digest.
While I'm much more willing now to let them learn lots of life lessons on their own, I still falter into my mama bear role at times. But I fight hard to let THEM stand their ground and be their own people and personalities. As long as they are good at heart, being exactly who they are and not worrying a lick about what the world thinks is the best way to go, if you ask me. I, like most of us do about our own kiddos, already think they're perfect anyway.
We will love them like crazy no matter what, who, how, when or why. So onward and upward with YOU, I say. Off into the future to just be everything good that YOU already are.